Long term love dynamics among intercultural couples

Long- term love dynamics among intercultural couples in Denmark<br/>Rashmi Singla &amp; Ida Glad <br/><br/>Dr. Rashmi Singla<br/>Associate Professor<br/>Department of People and Technology<br/>Roskilde University <br/>4000 Roskilde, Denmark<br/>Email: rashmi@ruc.dk<br/>&amp;<br/>Ida Glad<br/>Master of Arts in Social Psychology and Learning <br/>Visual Artist <br/>DIS – Study abroad in Scandinavia, Denmark<br/>Email: mail@idaglad.com<br/>Abstract<br/>This paper examines long-term love dynamics among couples in interracial/cultural relationships, also considered “mixed” couples. The study focuses on couples living in the Nordic region, characterized by homogeneity and a history of limited discussion about mixedness. Existing research on “mixed” couples often highlights adverse outcomes, such as higher divorce rates and social stigma (Elers, 2021, Blair, 2022). However, some recent studies acknowledge their strength and resilience (Yuratava &amp; Charura ; 2025, Xuan, 2023), and a meta-analysis of intercultural marriage satisfaction refutes the claim that they are less satisfied than same–culture couples (Uhlich, et al., 2022).<br/>The aim of the two case studies reported in this paper is to explore how culturally “mixed” couples residing in Denmark and other countries maintain long-lasting love.<br/>Methodology and methods of study <br/>The two case studies followed a cultural‑psychological approach, along with intersectionality, subjective meaning‑making, and spirituality to examine how intercultural couples maintain relationship through long term relationships. We conducted a re‑examination of phenomenon of long term love dynamics among culturally “mixed” couples, applying both the original 2015 conceptual analyses and updated more complex analyses, recognizing the strengths, resilience, and negotiation skills that intercultural couples demonstrate in their long-term relationships. <br/>The analysis focuses on two selected intercultural couples from Denmark that self‑identified themselves as heterosexual, long‑term (criterion 8–50 years) and reported effective negotiation of their couplehood. These two cases represent (a) Klaus (Denmark) and Raaka (India), married eight years, and having one daughter (7 years old); (b) Lars (Denmark) and Marlik (Pakistan), married 27 years, and having one daughter (25 years old) and one son (15 years old).<br/>We gathered the data through in‑depth, semi‑structured interview, which were audio‑recorded and transcribed verbatim to preserve participants’ language and narrative nuances. We used interpretive thematic analysis to identify patterns of meaning and negotiation within and across cases. Illustrative excerpts were selected to support interpretive claims while following ethical considerations.<br/>Results &amp; Discussion<br/>The analyses of these two case studies have revealed the major strategies and support sources that contribute to long-term love among mixed couples. Both couples demonstrate awareness of similarities and differences, along with their “romantic love”. The differences represent opportunities personal and dyadic development, rather than just barriers. One strategy is developing “racial literacy” among the Danish partners. Klaus and Lars show an awareness of racial discrimination among the ethnic minorities, and their privileged position as the White majority. Moreover, Raaka and Lars consider themselves “bridge- builders”, through active, critical response to discrimination.<br/>We interpret these observations of an expansion of partners’ perspectives and knowledge as they are encouraged to include previously unexplored worldviews and heritages, along with celebratory strategies. Illustrations are Raaka’s in-depth knowledge of the Danish labor market, especially the exclusionary processes, attempting promotion of diversity, and Lars’ religious conversion, spirituality, and attention to common humanity. <br/>Both couples have children and emphasize ongoing mutual discussions and an extended family support system in raising their children of mixed parentage. For Raaka and Claus, there is a parental agreement on the significant values, especially bilingualism, to be transmitted to their daughter. We analyze psychological factors, “mentality” similarity between Lars and Marlik in raising their children through a “specific mix” combining the ethnic identities of both parents, as a strategy for maintaining long-term relationship.<br/>In a prospective study, we consider including creative arts methods to explore the experiences of 10 couples who self-identify as long-term culturally “mixed” couples. Further suggestions and possible collaborations are welcome.<br/>Words: 500<br/>